Sexuality

 

Let’s celebrate life. Celebrate love.

All freedom of human experience is based on honesty. Honesty towards oneself and honesty towards others. Honesty is the key to personal happiness.

There are more dogmas and at the same time more different views of faith around the topic of sexuality than around any other topic – except the „right“ way to divine truth. This dogmatism does not come out of nowhere,  because both essential statements of human experience are not only related to each other, but form two facets of one and the same truth – how we want to experience and understand ourselves.

And so it is that the most wonderful areas of human experience have been filled with fears that have been planted in us. If we want to experience ourselves as sensual beings in all our divinity – and know this in our deepest heart – and on the other hand moral theological myths of our mother and father generations and our own self-imposed ideas cloud our way to ourselves, it is not surprising that inner conflicts smoulder within us. The natural way of dealing with sexuality is being weaned off „civilized people“ from an early age – to the extent that we are taught to seek and receive „our“ truths from others. How, so our subconscious tells us, can we let our fantasies and desires revolve around lustful (not exclusively sexual) events for the greater part of our existence, and yet on the other hand „know“ that precisely those lustful ideas and experiences „must not be“ – because this is „taught“ by so many „teachers“?

In all this experience the question arises whether we want to wander through life determined by others, or whether we want to find our own answers within ourselves.

Just as boundaries cannot be imposed on love out of love (boundaries arise out of fear), we may also impose restrictions on our sexuality if we want to experience ourselves in freedom. 

Whether two beings find their way to each other out of the deepest desire of their hearts, or whether they simply want to enjoy each other out of „disdainful“ desire, is up to them. And if a being feels strong desire within itself and wants to release these energies by satisfying itself – why not? May we all enjoy our delights. Morality starts where the feeling stops. And it is our feelings that make our existence truly *precious*.

Sexual energy is the highest form of expression of our self on a „material“ level. And let it always express itself playfully, if we want to understand and experience ourselves living in freedom. How and through what we want to experience and live out individual lust may not be determined by any standardized code. Love, freedom, play, sex – all this belongs together.

In my opinion, spirituality and the conscious living out of one’s own sexuality are not mutually exclusive, but are, in the highest aspect of love, an expression of true freedom. By far the majority of the Church Fathers of the most diverse faiths (men, who in particular want to ban women from joyful sexuality with the accusation of lechery…) restrict the faithful according to their respective views dogmatically. May the free spirit blow and reflect its healing effect also and especially in the joyful expression of our lust. And this not only for the purpose of procreation. Our body, the vehicle for our soul, was given to us as a gift so that we can experience „being“ within the relative world of the physical. All the possibilities of expression to which our imagination leads us are pleasing to God. If we want to experience ourselves as living gods who have become human beings, our joy of experimenting in the field of sexuality offers us great possibilities. What is allowed is what pleases – if our desire in expression is in harmony with the wishes of the other being of our being together.

Nevertheless, many beings on some stations of their spiritual journeys may decide not to perceive their own sexuality. If this desire, this confession, is a conscious, freely made decision, we do not limit ourselves when we practice abstinence. However, if we follow some kind of dogma according to which we believe that the „pure“ spirit must practice in chastity in order to attain enlightenment (or to experience divine blessing and grace), we act out of the fear aspect and this never leads to the experience of freedom – let alone enlightenment.

May we therefore be careful in our efforts not to replace old dogmas with new ones and enjoy the many facets of love playfully and joyfully…

„Have I not chosen a delightful way to make more of you?“

A voice of God in: Neale Donald Walsch, Conversations with God – Volume I